I fail to grasp how it is even possible/acceptable to approach a random stranger in such a matter. It is more intimate, i think, than," hey you wanna?"- IN the four years I have been here I have never had anyone ask me that oh so popular noob question actually. I was at Franks' I think it was years ago and one girl did latch on to me and try to get me interesteed to her- she acted bratty submissive - it's funny, it brought out a rather annoyed side to my personality - I was at the time dressed in latex though
I made an alt once, started him at Waterhead and posed the usual newbie questions in the forums to see what it was like for new guys to get help in the forums. I got a lot of notecards and used that info to get just the basic stuff skin, hair, ao, and a couple of outfits. He was on maybe 5 or 6 times yet still was approached twice by girls wanting to be his sub. Once was when he still had the newbie skin and both places were normal places you would send new people for free items.
While I can see the clothes make the av to some degree- I have to believe the people that do that really have no clue and are playing at it. Because when you factor in tht you are willingly allowing someone into your head - if you're doing it right - and you are exposing your self so completely- how can you trust someone you don't even know?
If it's playing then no harm no foul, I suppose. But then again I am not the sort to ask random people for even friend status.
Now mind- there are groups and places where one can go if that is all you are seeking- I would imagine the same is true for D/s, BDSM etc -
Lol, am recalling one particularly funny Cartel outing a bunch of us landed in a very odd sort of store that catered to well, let's just say bodily fluids shall we.. there were a bunch of us there and were riding on pogo sticks and just being goofy -
There was a girl with a tag, who was not a member- in fact, she may have been the reason we went in the first place, to see her- her tag said Public Slut - well if that's not an invite I don't know what is.. However she didnt seem too interested in the onslought of pop-stick riding Cartelians and soon tp'd away.
I guess I expect my stature and neko-ish cues to convey the sense of being more of a sub or simply vanilla... When I'm not all latex shiny. (^_^)
I had someone tell me yesterday that I look "very firm and confident" and I asked for details. In response, she told me about things like my eyebrow angle and AO giving the presence of someone who is "anchored". .... I always thought my AO sorta looked like I had a sore neck, or something. (O.o)
I guess a lot of this is like random friendings. Some people are more outgoing and expecting than others. I can see the fun in diving in head first and saying "Hey! You look like you'd enjoy this! Do ya' wanna!?" (^_^)
And, yeah... Group tags and float text sure can be telling sometimes. My group tag typically reads "You'll learn to hate" but, some people do often use it as a billboard for their intentions. Nothing more superficial than something floating over your head saying "Come'n get it!" (^_^)y
Well in Sl I have never been approached as a Dom, might have to do with the fact I do not profile myself as one. It simply is not what I am in SL for. Even though I tend to chat too much lately, my main thing in SL is business and building. A couple of girls did approach me to have sex or some kind of relationship though, I politely refused :-)
However in RL I am a Dom, and live in a D/s relationship. Both the D/s part as the BDSM part are a big part of our lives.
Very important to know is that especially D/s has a big impact on someone, especially the sub/slave. So be very careful with it. Most Doms (and Dommes) simply havent got a clue and can do more damage then good. IN a virtual world as SL, it is even easier to pretend you are D, then in RL, and the phychological damage may very well be done before you find out your D is not knowing what he (she) is doing. Hell, even in RL I have some really messy situations because some guys think leather clothes is all it takes to be a D.
I guess I expect my stature and neko-ish cues to convey the sense of being more of a sub or simply vanilla... When I'm not all latex shiny. (^_^)
I've always been somewhat confused by that. I mean, we are talking about a cat here. Now while there is a breed known for being ragdollish (Ragdolls . . wait, is that the name, well there is a breed), most are . . well . . cats. When you think of cats, do you think of . . submisive behavior, etc? Now they might let you pet them, move them around, etc., but if they are done, they are done. And if you do not notice, they will, not maybe, but will bite you.
Now if you were a puppygirl when not all latex shiny, that would be a different issue. heh
Then again, I am a cat. *mews* (I admit that I sometimes look like this , though)
My catness, somewhat, is seen more when I dominate (which is a rare thing). Also when a toy is thrust at me. When dominate I scratch and play somewhat sadisticly. When I do not wish to play with the toy, I just turn up my nose and ignore.
The BDSM places in SL are shallow. Lots of collectors there.
So, where does a sub find a good dominant? Well, they look around elsewhere. The smart ones get to know people first, build a relationship, and attempt to move on from there. The rest I guess throw the dice and proposition strangers until lightening strikes.
Cats are so not submissive. Jesus Christ. I would never bas-
I can be . . . if I feel like it that day
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Greetings,
I’m new around here, and this is my first post, but I couldn’t help it to dig my spoon in this thread.
I’m a Domme and I’m around SL for some years.
There are three kinds of “subs” around SL:
-The “morning hard on”: Generally newbies, with no idea what BDSM is besides the leather clothes. They usually fire up IM’s to anyone around not wearing a collar with the usual line “U R hot”.
-The “one night stand”: Have some clues about BDSM, but mainly they want “ball clicking / pixel fucking” and find cool to wear all that restraint gear. More selective sending IM’s, with the usual line “Hello Miss/Sir”
-The “Real” Sub: Usually well kept AVi, discrete standing quiet at the corner and rarely initiates an IM conversation.
Bottom line is, and answering the topic, the image doesn’t really matter, “if it moves, then it’s a target”
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So, where does a sub find a good dominant? Well, they look around elsewhere. The smart ones get to know people first, build a relationship, and attempt to move on from there.
Normally you don’t find a good dominant, the dominant will find you
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